Tough Decisions: Compassionate, Creative Services Give Hope to Families
FairHaven Funeral Home • April 17, 2020
For families undergoing end-of-life care decisions right now, Covid-19 has upended the basic comforts we know. FairHaven's Mark Scheidt expresses the challenge social distancing is having on the traditional practices of consoling families. Here's the story of Char Milan and her father, Lee.
For Fort Wayne native Char Milan
and her family, the death of her father Lee Milan
could not have come at a worse time. Lee was laid to rest on March 31, 2020. However, the standards for social distancing during the Covid-19 pandemic, made the loss more difficult.
"We've had funerals since the beginning of time," co-owner Mark Scheidt
told ABC21, "This is so not tradition."
Mark Scheidt, one of four partner-directors
of FairHaven Funeral Home, in a rare loss for words regarding social distancing. He believes that holding memorials — when the threat of the pandemic passes — will bring people together once again.
In a profession
built on empathy and support, where a hug and holding someone's hand are undisputed comforts, Scheidt said it felt unnatural to move chairs in his funeral home so far apart.
"To say to a family that's lost their father, 'Let's pick ten people that are going to be here for this funeral," he explained. "I don't even have the words..."
Scheidt and his colleagues are working with families online
and making arrangements over the phone. They are also offering the option of live streaming or taking video of the funeral service, and sharing with those unable to attend.
"Connecting with people, your family and friends, and mourning but also celebrating those we love, that's the province of funeral directors and our service," Scheidt said.
"When this is over, I believe the impulses to be together will be stronger than ever."