Bernadine (Bernie) Bender Miller passed away on April 6, 2026 leaving behind a legacy of love for her family and many who were touched by her grace. She was born on February 16, 1940 in North Manchester, Indiana to Todd and Virginia Bender and younger sister to Barbara. Bernie spent her 86 years living out St. Francis’ famous quote, “Preach the Gospel at all times. Use words when necessary.”
After graduating from Indiana University, her career began in Battle Creek, Michigan and then led her to Fort Wayne where she dedicated significant contribution to Parkview Hospital and Parkview Foundation until her retirement in 2005.
On September 29th, 1984 she married the love of her life, James E. Miller. Together they built a life of generosity, beauty and love. Bernie’s life of giving formed the foundation of her children; Christy (Dave) Lock of Indianapolis, Todd (Melanee) Findley and Christen (Robert) Pettit-Miller of Fort Wayne. Her gifts especially flowed to her grandchildren; Sean, Stuart, and Austin Findley, Colin Spencer, and Grayson Pettit-Miller. Her legacy also lives in the many quilts and wall hangings that she created for her children, grandchildren, churches, and friends. One of her final acts of giving was making blankets for the Brave Bags program of Blessings in a Backpack. Her family has created the "Bernie's Blanket" project with the organization so that her legacy of blanket making can be carried on in the future. Bernie was caring and giving until the end. Her life was well lived.
A celebration of Bernie’s life will be held on Saturday, April 11, at Peace United Church of Christ (9123 Aboite Center Road), with calling from Noon to 2pm and memorial service at 2pm. Memorial gifts may be made to Blessings in a Backpack (designating "Bernie's Blankets” project), Erin's House, and Peace United Church of Christ.